Balancing the Abortion Debate

Rising above Pro-Life vs Pro-Choice


The abortion debate has been rather polarized and confrontational over the years, and many in the Pro-Life and Pro-Choice camps are out of touch with what the other side really believes. For example, many pro-choice advocates do not promote promiscuity, nor do they promote abortion as the first option to deal with an unplanned pregnancy. And most pro-life advocates do not engage in hatred and malintent towards those who are pro-choice. Plus, there is more than one main issue. There is the debate over the human status of the fetus and the extent to which the government should interfere in people’s choices, among other issues.

A complex subject like this cannot be boiled down to a simple battle of “us versus them”. There is much common ground, which if cultivated, will defuse much of the battle and greatly help those stuck in the middle, the pregnant women in difficult dilemmas, and subsequently those in the womb.


The Bigger Picture


Often, when two groups cannot agree, there is a bigger whole, a bigger picture that some of them are not seeing. This website explores this issue and suggests tools for opening our hearts, minds and vision to a better future for us and those who are still to be born. Here are some “What if …?”s that we may not be seeing, to help us explore this subject:


What if …


1. What if … it were not financial circumstances, logistics or reluctance to care for children that led most women to the abortion clinic, but instead, a lack of support among those closest to them, like parents or boyfriends? According to the book Real Choices: Listening to Women; Looking for Alternatives to Abortion by Frederica Mathewes-Green, this is the case. See more on this in the “Beyond Debating and Taking Action” section below.

2. What if … we were mostly operating at 10 percent (or less) of our normal potential, not just brain capacity, but everything, including self-control? What if all the geniuses and great people throughout history were just being “normal”, and we have allowed ourselves to be drawn down into our lower animal nature and sexual addictions by society, including the advertising and entertainment industries? If this is so (and there is mounting evidence), and if we came up higher, rising above our inordinate desires for sexual indulgence, much of the promiscuity would disappear, and consequently much of the abortion issue. For more thoughts on sexual balance, see the Sexual Balance page.

3. What if … we were all part of a much bigger whole, a part that we were out of touch with, that had the solutions we needed? And what if this bigger whole, like the spiritual or Divine side of us, needed us so that it could manifest into the physical world? After all, were we not all created in the image and likeness of God?

4. What if … we have a soul, and our soul started integrating with our body in the womb? Some of the material covering this issue is covered in the books Wanting To Be Born by Dr. Neroli Duffy and Nurturing Your Baby’s Soul by Elizabeth Clare Prophet.

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The author’s personal view on this aspect and on the abortion debate can be found in the poem “The Choice” on the Abortion Debate Poem page.


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5. What if … some people and websites are correct in their beliefs that reincarnation is a major factor in the abortion debate, and that each soul who is conceived needs to come through that mother to help them balance mutual “karma” and fulfill a specific mission? If they are right, we’ve missed a pretty big boat. The website takes this subject up further.

6. What if … … … We could go on, but you get the idea. There is much we do not know in this world. We do not even fully have a handle on the common cold, never mind on life and death issues. It is usually better to play it safe, seek balance with humility and try to find the common ground between our differences. Then act out of love by taking action where we know it counts.


Beyond Debating: Taking Action


The abortion debate issue is not always what it seems. According to the Real Choices – Listening to Women; Looking for Alternatives to Abortion book, it was not financial circumstances, logistics or reluctance to care for children that led most women to the abortion clinic, but pressure or lack of support for the pregnancy among those closest to them, like parents or boyfriend. Even though not all surveys on abortion agree, this is still a major factor, and it helps us to focus on helping and supporting pregnant women, and subsequently the unborn, instead of focusing on intellectual or political abortion arguments.


Things you can do to help:


  • Tell your friends, communities and social groups about this and other helpful websites.
  • Consider reading the Real Choices book referred to above and others on the subject. Real Choices also has many recommendations at the end of it to act on.
  • One easy and immediate way you can help, if you believe in prayer, is to make a commitment to pray fervently and regularly for the proper support for pregnant women who are feeling pressured to have an abortion. And of course for the many children in the womb. (Prayer is not that common today as it used to be. So the biggest unemployment problem today is probably in Heaven, with legions of angels waiting around for our calls!)
  • Check out the Resources page for more options to get involved.